The difficulty in ending an emotionally invested situation

It’s never the right time to end things. There’s not a specific time to end a difficult situation. I mean, it would probably be a lot easier. Like oh, 6:13pm on a Tuesday is doomsday. You have to decide by that exact time. Clock’s ticking. Countdown beings. Tick-tock. 

Putting pressure on yourself will probably give you the answer you need.

But unfortunately, there’s no life-threatening emotional countdown to dig that answer out of you. You only have logic (occasionally), your friends and a big bottle of wine to help you through this situation.

And sometimes, even that doesn’t feel like enough.

So what can you do? Listen to your friends? Go out and get wasted so you can’t even remember that impending decision you have on your hands? Go to a psychic? Open a huge tub of ice cream (not even ben and jerry’s – who can afford to splash out that much in this economic climate?) and top it with salty tears?

Sure you can do all that.

But ultimately, you still have a decision to make and that decision lies with you. Nothing will change until you make a change.

You just have to decide whether you want things to change or not.

Accepting what you need is probably one of the hardest understandings you’ll ever have to come to terms with.

Because what you want and what you need is probably two different things.

You can’t stick with something that constantly makes you unhappy just because you’re afraid of losing someone. Ok, the situation might not even make you constantly unhappy. It could vary from once a week to a couple times a year. But if this sadness completely consumes you to the point where you don’t care about a single thing that was once important to you then that’s when you know you need to stop. Or you’ll end up losing yourself. And once you’ve lost yourself, well, it’s pretty hard to come back from that.

You just have to work out what's worth it and what isn't.